Here we go again.   Another public figure caught with his “thingy” where it shouldn’t have been.  I realize I’m merely a woman, but I honestly want to understand.

Since my early twenties I have taken a personal poll with my male friends and relatives.  I wanted to understand the male  fascination/obsession with sex so I had a series of questions I would ask.   I would explain that I understood why women loved sex so much because we have something inside our body and that in and out motion is extremely delightful.  But I believed that for men,  the fascination would seem less so, since men are just in a hole.  What’s the big deal, right?

Wrong!  Although through the years I’ve heard many interpretations and explanations for men’s love of sex, I’m still baffled.  I’ve been told that even though it’s a hole,  we don’t all feel the same.  Some of us are tighter.  Some of us get wetter.  Some are more vocal than others.  Some of us are enthusiastic participants,  while others are recipients of that good feeling and just lay there!  Then there’s my favorite,  “It’s sooooooooo warm!!”.  It goes on and on!  I’ve heard it all.

Yet what never ceases to amaze me is, how some men use the excuse that “I’m just a man doing what men do, what’s the problem?”  yet expect their partner, whether wife or girlfriend, to be committed and loyal.

David Letterman apologized for his escapades, yet somehow I don’t believe him.  I feel he’s sorry that the truth came to light.  Since he feels embarrassed and has publicly humiliated his wife,  he has tried to fix it with a fake-ass apology.  He wasn’t sorry at the time he was in the coochie!!  He was only when he was exposed.

And what about the women he had these affairs with?  They weren’t raped – they were willing participants, right?  As long as men are fascinated with sex and as long as there are women who don’t care if he’s married, these things are going to happen.

I wonder if marriage is really necessary or realistic.  Why not just sign a contract for 5 years with the option of renewing.  If a variety in sexual partners or boredom is the reason people cheat, just cancel the contract and keep it moving.

Stop making a mockery of the vows!  Stop humiliating your significant other! Stop setting a bad example to our children of what it means to make a commitment.  Stop acting like wild animals in the forest who have no control over their libido.  Stop f—ing and start making love…. it feels a lot better, and it has more meaning too.

I guess all in all, I want to see more  intimacy where there is loyalty, honesty, respect and control.  Not what we see today that is so prevalent, f—ing, screwing, and all amounts of lasciviousness than necessary.  What’s wrong with everybody, have we all lost our minds, or is it just me?

Hotep

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